Dreams about Arguing

Are you troubled by something you can’t express to a certain person? Perhaps this individual is no longer part of your life, yet you find yourself dreaming about arguments with them. What’s causing this?

Dreams about arguing typically revolve around past, unresolved issues or suppressed emotions that you struggle to express while awake. We usually argue in our dreams when there’s a lack of communication on both sides, often stemming from unreciprocated feelings. The average person feels somewhat afraid of confronting deep, intense emotions, especially those leading to unpleasant or unwanted feelings.

We often ignore or set aside these emotions until they surface in our dreams. Effective communication is a bridge between two people that promotes a healthy exchange of thoughts, feelings, and ideas, leading to mutual understanding. When this exchange is blocked or hindered, our emotions become suppressed, and these feelings get trapped in our subconscious mind.

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Unfortunately, dream arguments arise when we want our voice heard but can’t seem to connect with the person we’re arguing with. In our dreams, we tend to argue with our closest friends, parents, partners, siblings, and even exes.

The Meaning Behind Dream Arguments

I have always been intrigued by the psychology of dreams and what they might mean about the person who is dreaming. This passage says that when we have trouble expressing ourselves, we can project our confusion onto the people we’re arguing with in our dreams. This is especially interesting to me because it suggests that our unconscious mind does not discriminate between our personal experiences and our dream experiences. What do you think this means for understanding our own unconscious minds?

The silver lining is that once you decipher your dream’s message, you’ll naturally become better at understanding your emotions, even those that make you angry. Moreover, you can improve your emotional well-being over time and enhance your future relationships.

Buddha teaches us that “Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” The primary goal in your dream is to pinpoint the origin of these hidden feelings.

• Are you avoiding expressing your feelings to this person?
• What unresolved issues exist in this relationship?
• What was the dream argument about?
• Do you feel unheard or need to prove your point?
• Does this person take you seriously or ignore your demands?

What Does It Mean To Dream About Arguing With Someone?

If you can’t identify the person, it might relate to a specific issue or inner conflict in your life. One of the root causes of dream arguments is avoidance, a learned behavior to escape difficult thoughts or feelings.

However, in our waking life, we tend to do the opposite through procrastination, passive-aggressiveness, or rumination as coping mechanisms. Our dreams urge us to discover where this stems from – consider the location, the argument topic, and what happens afterward as clues to decipher the dream.

Arguing With Parents In Your Dreams

Does it seem like, no matter how old you are, your parents still see you as a child? Have you ever felt like you weren’t allowed to make your own decisions? Perhaps your parents have passed away, yet you find yourself arguing with them in your dreams. What does this mean?

Depending on the dreamer’s age, arguing with your parents can range from teenagers seeking independence to adults dealing with past trauma. In fact, many women confessed to feeling like they revert to their teenage selves during disputes with their parents.

Dreams of fighting with your parents represent unresolved past conflicts that have emotionally blocked you. The dream encourages you to unlock these unconscious emotions by reflecting on your past relationship and confronting these uncomfortable feelings. Sometimes, we argue with our parents as a way to heal our inner child.

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Arguing With Your Ex In Your Dreams

You might be surprised to learn that many people dream of embracing and accepting their ex years after breaking up. But this isn’t about their ex; it’s about self-acceptance or emotional closure.

Arguing with your ex in your dream differs from arguing with parents or friends since we invest emotionally in this person. Those who argue with their ex in dreams may still harbor anger, repressed emotions, unconscious hurt, and confusion from the past. These raw feelings get projected onto your ex, urging you to find and release this anger. Sometimes, these feelings may even be mirrored in your current relationship.

Dream Of Arguing With Your Cousin

Dreaming of arguing with your cousin usually reflects your opinions or feelings about them. What is your relationship like? Did something recent upset or frustrate you? Maybe you had a disagreement or are dealing with unconscious feelings that you struggle to express.

Dream Of Arguing With Friends or Boyfriend

In most cases, we argue with friends when we can’t express our feelings to them in reality. You might fear judgment or exclusion, so you stay silent. Dreams about arguing with friends encourage you to become more confident and express your feelings.

Dreaming of arguing with your boyfriend symbolizes your struggle to express and understand your emotions in your relationship. If you’re more agreeable or submissive, these dreams bring out your assertive side.

Arguing With A Deceased Mother or Father

Dreaming of arguing with your deceased mother or father represents unresolved past issues that you can’t let go. Behind the fight lies pain and hurt that you couldn’t express to them when they were alive. The dream encourages you to write or speak to your parents (usually before bed) about the wrongs they did to you. Once these repressed memories or emotions are addressed, they may reappear in other, more positive forms – like hugging, receiving gifts, enjoying food, and smiling.

How To Identify And Stop Arguing

Despite the intense emotions that surface during arguments, there are some benefits. It’s normal to fight or have a verbal discourse, but daily arguments indicate a lack of understanding and empathy in your relationship.

1. The best way to have a discussion is to choose an appropriate time to sit down and discuss. This way, both people will be free of other obligations and able to focus on the issue at hand.
2. Start the conversation amicably and reasonably.
3. Use ‘I’ statements, not ‘you‘ statements.
4. Set boundaries when you argue.
5. Consider their perspective before yours.
6. Find the root cause, not the superficial annoyance.
7. Pay attention to your emotions.
8. Be open to compromise.
9. Take some time apart.

When you have a dream where people are arguing or fighting, it’s like your brain is playing pretend! Sometimes, you see people talking loudly or even being a little grumpy in your dreams, but that’s okay—it’s your brain trying to understand big feelings, just like when you have a toy that you play with over and over.

When you wake up, remember: dreams are just stories your mind makes up while you’re sleeping. They might feel a bit funny or strange, but they’re not real. You can always tell a grown-up about them, and they’ll help you understand that your dreams are a safe place to learn about your feelings. Your dreams help you grow strong, happy, and ready for a brand-new day!